Conflict. It’s inevitable and each of us faces certain degrees of it as we move through the day, in our life, work, and relationships. One component always included in conflict is .... the apology. Sometimes we may think we'll choke on the words, but I'd like to offer a new…
One of the best things we can do for ourselves is pay attention to our own lives, so we can create lives we love and enjoy, consistently. When we pay attention to what's going on, we get better control of our lives so what we say and do is more…
It’s going to be a great day. Know how I know? Because I get to decide how I think about my day. It’s easier to allow the stress, anxiety, or overwhelm I might wake up with to steer me along and determine all I do today and through the week.…
Questions — I love them. They help me figure stuff out. They increase my understanding of myself, others, and the circumstances of life. They keep me taking action in my life where I need it most. Questions are good and helpful. Here's what we’ve looked at so far: Question…
In Part 1, if you were noticing what you were thinking… What did you discover? (By the way, keep doing it. Make it a practice for yourself. You’ll notice a real difference as you pay attention to your own mind.) I love to think and I love being curious. It…
I was thinking about a reality we all manage -- there are two voices we tend to hear throughout the day. They're distinct from each other and, when we listen to them, lead to very different outcomes. Paying attention to your own life is the secret to loving and enjoying…
Do you have “Habit Words?” Many of us have little those expressions we use that can become part of our personality; common words and phrases we say often and people come to expect us to say them. It’s part of who we are and the people who love us notice…
I made up a new term a while ago: The “More-Enough-’N-ers.” I’ve never heard anyone else use it, but I hear people talking about what it refers to all the time. Here’s what we say. Do you recognize any of these? The “Mores-” “I should be more fulfilled.” “I should…
Goals are good. When it comes to setting them and measuring progress, we ask all the right questions and use the right metrics to move forward and accomplish them; who, what, where, when, etc? The answers to those questions keep us on track, focused, purposeful. We measure, calculate, recalculate…it's mostly tangible. The hardest…
During my counseling internship for my master's degree, my faculty advisor talked about the power of one question we could ask our clients. This one question could identify where someone is currently and where they wish they could be: "During the night, while you were sleeping, a miracle happened. When you…