Anger is a very real and common emotion we feel. It needs to be dealt with and overcome, for sure, because as we give it space in our lives, it can cause great trouble for ourselves and others. So how do you manage anger? One place to start is to identify…
I spend a lot of time helping people discover who they are and answer the question, "why do I do what I do?" There are reasons for everything we do, whether we are aware of them at a conscious level or not. Our behavior just flows out of our being.…
Our interpersonal relationships are critical for personal wholeness and professional success. We're not wired for a completely independent life, to be lived alone. There are times we need to withdraw and get away to regroup, to get some clarity and perspective. The reality is, however, we need each other. Right?…
A great "reframe" is powerful and can change everything for someone. We all see the world around us a certain way, which is developed over time and through a variety of experiences. We hold beliefs and values and attach meaning to everything based on them. We develop a "frame," or mental…
We all need encouragement. All of us. But what is it and how do we do it, really? When we think of encouragement, we often think of the light words spoken with a smile and a little lift in our voice; perhaps words that sit at the surface and rarely go…
Goals are good. When it comes to setting them and measuring progress, we ask all the right questions and use the right metrics to move forward and accomplish them; who, what, where, when, etc? The answers to those questions keep us on track, focused, purposeful. We measure, calculate, recalculate…it's mostly tangible. The hardest…
One summer night a few years ago, I was in New York City. I was with a group of friends waiting at the crosswalk for the light to change. It goes without saying there were a ton of people around; it's New York City after all. While waiting, I heard…
Several years ago, my sister gave me a book for Christmas called "List Yourself: Listmaking as the Way to Self-Discovery," by Ilene Segalove and Paul Bob Velick. What a great little book to help us understand who we are and give us "stuff" to share with others so they can…
Invisible. Unloved. Unworthy. Insecure. Lonely. Weak. Disappointed. Unsatisfied. Afraid of Abandonment. Useless. Silly. Failure. Broken. Not Good Enough. Afraid. Frightened. Incompetent. Scared. Unsure. Sad. Angry. Helpless. Liar. Ugly. Terrible. Hypocrite. Fat. Unlovable. Inadequate. Loser. Unpopular. Alone. Crazy. Not knowing Whose I Am. Not Knowing Who I Am. Unacceptable. Irrelevant. Guilty.…
I heard someone say once, "A value is an observable behavior." Think about what you value. How is that value expressed by what you do? Think of behavior you've observed in someone else. Can you determine the values someone holds based on what he or she does? Actions reveal what's…